ENERGETIC TRANSFORMATION

ENERGETIC TRANSFORMATION

Have you ever listened to yourself say “I’m not good enough to do _________________fill in the blank? Here are a few more

  • Not pretty enough
  • Not smart enough
  • Too old
  • Too young
  • Too fake
  • I don’t have what it takes

You get where I’m going with this.

“Going through life with self-limiting beliefs is like keeping your foot on the brakes when you’re trying to accelerate.” – lotuspathway.com

Messages like these can creep up on us for those out there who have an inner critic (and we all do). How do you think this affects our sense of self-worth? What is self-worth? 

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines self-worth as “a sense of one’s own value as a human being” and “a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect.” Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself primarily through your self-evaluated abilities and performance in your everyday activities-occupations. This is where we can be in our heads and start to hear the inner critic dish out some self-limiting beliefs.  It can be anything from our appearance, class status, career status, bank account, social media following, technical abilities, etc. Guilt and shame have a sneaky way of showing up here. 

It would help you to challenge the inner critic whispering, sometimes even shouting these things into your ear. Are the statements factual, kind, something you need to know? If not, no matter what is being said by the inner critic, stand in your sacred worthiness, claim what is rightfully yours to own and protect. Remind yourself in that very instant YOU ARE ENOUGH, SAFE, and a WORTHY PERSON. Once you understand, accept, and love yourself for all you indeed are, a true miracle, you will no longer depend on external factors to validate your self-worth. You will begin to appreciate yourself and bask in self-love and self-acceptance. You have the power; you have always had the power. Understand your self-value comes from the internal measure you set for yourself. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. Thank you, Whitney!

“When you mark where your self-doubt is, then you can begin to conquer it.” – Stephen Richards.

“There is one grand lie-that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe.” -Wayne Dyer.

According to Brené Brown in the book, Dare to Lead, “A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.” That includes us. So, what is the single most crucial factor that distinguishes great leaders from the rest? Which personal quality is most likely to inspire confidence and respect among our fellow humankind? Which aspect of YOU should you focus on to put your life on the fast track to success? The answer to all these questions is a single word: ENERGY! 

This is where the transformational energetic levels come in and can be a tool to help us measure and track what energy level we reside in and what our default energetic levels are. Let me explain. Bruce Schneider of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) provides us a model with seven energetic levels in his book Energy Leadership. This helps us to become more aware of our personal and professional power. We will explore how to become an influential leader who motivates ourselves and others to reach our full potential. You will learn to recognize that the seven distinct levels are the key to understanding why everyone thinks and acts the way they do. Here are the seven levels:

1-The Victim

2-The Fighter

3-The Rationalizer

4-The Caregiver

5-The Opportunist

6-The Visionary

7-The Creator

The leadership of self and others starts and ends with these seven energetic levels. So, let’s see how you are showing up? Please join me for the next WWR+A event, either virtually via Zoom, or at Brewers Alley in person, on September 29, 2021, to learn more about energy, my signature WORTHY model, the energy leadership index assessment, and much, much more.  

Today’s References

Book — Energy Leadership

Lyrics for The Greatest Love of All by Whitney Houston

What is Self-Worth, and How Do We Increase it?

Dare to Lead | PDF Book Summary | By Brené Brown. 

The Healing Power of Water

The Healing Power of Water

What comes to your mind, or what do you think of when I say the word WATER?

When I was just a young girl of about 9-years old, my family moved overseas. Every weekend, all six of us would pile into the red and white VW Camper and travel to some new and exciting location in Italy. My dad usually took the scenic route along the coastline of the Mediterranean Sea. I can still recall the thrill and utter amazement of coming around a corner only to see the magnificent majesty of the deep blue sea, Breathtaking!

Water relaxes the mind, heals the body, soothes the heart, and calms the spirit! Water has always been an incredible source of healing for me; how about you?

Have you ever heard of Blue Mind Science? Is it the study of the aquatic environment’s health benefits? It offers up a cure for whatever ails you, whether it’s stress, anxiety, or just a case of the blues.

Humans are naturally drawn to water. That’s why most communities are built near bodies of water. Scientists are now quantifying the positive physical and cognitive effects of water. It turns out it leads to an improved overall sense of wellbeing and can produce a meditative state that makes us happier, healthier, calmer, creative, and more capable of AWE! And all for free!

Whether it’s going down to the ocean, visiting the local swimming pool, sitting in a jacuzzi, the smell of rain, a good thunderstorm, or spa service, water heals. Did you know the word SPA is an abbreviation for Solus Par Aqua, which means health or healing through water? Have you ever experienced a Vichy shower?

Now I would be remiss as an OT Practitioner and a Wholistic Empowerment Coach if I didn’t mention HYDRATION and its importance. Did you know that humans are approximately 70% water? Have you experienced any of the following?

• Dry skin
• Dry mouth
• Brain fog
• Moodiness
• Headache
• Muscle cramps
• Dizziness
• Rapid heart rate

These are all symptoms of dehydration:

Whether you choose to drink tap, spring, mineral, seltzer, purified, alkaline, vitamin, or well-water, so long as it is safe, the main goal is to stay hydrated and drink enough water each day to stay healthy and happy. Also, what is it they say about the fountain of youth? Why not stop for a spot of tea or pause this season for some delicious watermelon.

Some benefits of water are:

• Better heart health and overall health
• Increased energy and brain function
• Lubricated joints and more robust muscles
• Ease with digestion
• Maximized physical performance
And the list goes on. Water is therapeutic!

To you, it might just be water, but to me, it’s how I regain my sanity.

I want to end today’s blog with a quote by Sir George Sitwell.

“I have left almost to the last the magic of water, an element which owing to its changefulness of form and mood and color and to the vast range of its effects is ever the principal source of landscape beauty, and has like music a mysterious influence over the mind.”
— Sir George Sitwell, On the Making of Gardens

May you experience a wholehearted, wholistic sense of wellbeing, along with the Blue Mind happier, healthier, calmer, more creative, and capable of Awe, MAGIC OF WATER OFTEN!

Radical Love

Radical Love

It’s was my turn to write a blog. The pressure was on, but the words just wouldn’t come. Then a thousand words came but just didn’t fit together. Then it occurred to me to use the universal language we all understand, Music to help you better understand Radical Love. Here goes!

Love

Waymaker, Miracle worker, Promise Keeper, light in the darkness, my God, that is who you are!

For me, it starts and stops with Faith, something greater than myself. A place always welcomed, loved, seen as a miracle, wanted, appreciated, guided, and challenged. A place I can go to all the time or anytime I run out of my own strength. Here, I have someone to turn to. A power source I can plug into, pray to, believe in and feel energized from. It is the faith of my heart. A Miracle morning quiet time is my path to peace, focus, and power. A little tapping too, but that’s in another blog. What higher power is LOVE to you?

Self-Love

Learning to Love Yourself Is the Greatest Love of All. Houston teaches us about self-love and the epic journey to self-realization. Whitney said, ” I feel that the road to self-love is a deep, intricate and challenging journey, but one that will teach us about the meaning of a true, genuine, happy, and honest existence”.

Whitney struggled to embrace these words… However, she left us a powerful message of Love. “We must all learn how to love ourselves. It’s the only way we can save the world. We must equip our youth with the tools to create a better future for themselves and the next generation. We must teach our youth, and ourselves, the true meaning of self-love, The Greatest Love of All”.

Casey Musgraves’s song Rainbow is a message she wrote to herself and anyone else who is feeling any weight on their shoulders. She sings to us that there has always been a rainbow hanging over your head. Casey Musgrave tells us we are all exceptional indeed!

The Love of Others

Once we value ourselves, we can then value others, too.  Life, History, and COVID-19 has shown us how important this is. The Times They Are A-Changing said, Bob Dylan.

I couldn’t come up with just one song, so here is a medley of songs.  We genuinely do all need one another. We are truly interconnected.

Bruno Mars says You Can Count on Me

He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother

With a Little Help from My Friends

You’ve Got A Friend In Me from Toy Story

We Are family

People Who Need People

Radical Love

In closing, Love, Self-Love and Loving others all combine together and form Radical Love!

The final two songs today hopefully sum it up well.

What the World Needs Now Is Love Sweet Love!

Michael Jackson, and a variety of very talented artist sing We Are The WORLD!

You ARE Worthy of Love

You ARE Worthy of Love

What if you woke up with the snap of my fingers and believed, truly believed, without question, YOU were Worthy of Love?

Pause for a moment and imagine that.

In Karen Casey’s book Worthy of Love, she writes, “There is probably no expression in my life more difficult to feel, develop, offer, accept or maintain, than Love. And I have so desperately wanted to revel in it, certain that if only I “knew” Love, I’d forever be happy, content and serene every moment, never tragedy’s victim.

Karen also says, “Of course, the irony is the harder we look for Love, the more blurred our vision. Only when we become quiet and trust that Love is our birthright do we discover its friendship has enfolded us”.

Karen Casey’s book, Worthy of Love, Meditations on Loving Ourselves and Others was a gift to me I will always treasure. I offer this blog as a gift to you, on Love, and in Love.

What would it feel like to Love yourself unconditionally and be comfortable in your skin with no need to do any number of the things we can come up with to NOT feel our feelings?

  •    Check our email
  •    Grab a snack
  •    Find a project
  •    Phone a friend
  •    Workout

One thing that can be an obstacle to self-love and very self-damaging is Self-Criticism. The inner critic is often experienced as negative thoughts about our behaviors or ourselves. We think being extra hard on ourselves will somehow motivate us to change.

  •    Don’t ask for any help
  •    Struggle with body image
  •    Play the blame game
  •    Don’t forgive, keep punishing
  •    Get down on yourself
  •    Difficult decision making
  •    Comparing ourselves to others
  •    Thinking I’m Never enough
  •    Overanalyzing
  •    Worry/Fear

We work so hard to be more, better, fixed, but perhaps that is the problem, and the simple solution is accepting we don’t need to be fixed.

It is only when we accept ourselves for who and what we are, and no longer require the acceptance and approval of others, we start to achieve our inner sense of peace and security.

Self-Compassion and kindness offer us encouragement, support, and the Love we long for. It aligns us with what we truly want and desire.

  •    Acceptance
  •    Trust
  •    No judging, blaming or criticizing
  •    Forgiveness
  •    Peace of I’m enough
  •    Faith Hope and Love

Both self-criticism and self-compassion are ways we protect ourselves. They can be healthy ways to achieve personal growth; however, self-criticism can also be a barrier to our peace of mind.

Here are 3 Powerful Ways to Promote Self-Love and Awareness

  1. MINDFULNESS-maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing lens. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts turn inward into what we are sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.
  1. JOURNALING-a way to explore our emotions, channel our feelings, and explore outcomes. Writing is a vehicle that allows us to slow down and pay attention to everything that is going on in our lives. One beneficial exercise is journaling your self-critical thought paired with a self-compassionate response. Give it a try.
  1. HAVING A MANTRA/S-a mantra is a sacred utterance, a word, sound, or phrase repeated to aid in your concentration. It is believed to have spiritual and psychological power. It is said to be a tool of thought, a way to focus the mind. Just for fun, why not try Mirror Mantra’s with Crayola ® washable makers.

SELF-Acceptance ask much of us, but I promise the journey and reward are worth it

SELF-Compassion and kindness are powerful skills we can lean into more deeply each and every day to support ourselves.

SELF-Love is a process, a practice for all our lives. The goal is to grow in it.

No matter where you are on the journey, the most important thing we can do is to be ourselves, love ourselves, and celebrate our unique and miraculous authenticity. Then, we can contribute to the ripple effect of LOVE throughout this world.

Remember Always, or remind yourself with a quick snap of the fingers,

YOU ARE WORTHY!

YOU ARE A MIRACLE!

YOU ARE AMAZING!

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others,

Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval

Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts her.

~Lao Tzu

About today’s author: Kat Middleton is an Empowerment Coach who is passionate about her work and advocates for authentic wholehearted living both personally and professionally. She is a Certified Professional Coach and Occupational Therapy Practitioner who loves working with people holistically; helping others to help themselves see things through new filters. Kat joined the Wholistic Woman community in September of 2017. She is very excited to learn, grow, and have much fun with this AMAZING group of women. Kat is available for private one-on-one coaching as well as group workshops, seminars, and speaking events.

Compassion, Space, Grace, Self-Care & HUMOR

Compassion, Space, Grace, Self-Care & HUMOR

COMPASSION

Kristen Neff has defined self-compassion as being composed of three main components–self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

She says self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?

Instead of mercilessly judging or criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings-after all, whoever said you were supposed to be perfect?

Please practice cultivating gentle, loving-kindness towards yourself as a way of being more self-compassionate.

SPACE

 A continuous area of expanse, which is free, available or unoccupied.

There have been times in my life I needed some space. A weekend getaway, walk through the woods, riding in the car playing my favorite tunes or just to being in a room all by myself.

Who remembers the Rodgers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella 1965 song that went like this…In my own little corner, in my own little chair, I can be whatever I want to be. There is such freedom in that chair.

When was the last time you allowed yourself some space?

GRACE

Is the spiritual freedom that arises from living in harmony with yourself, others, and with the entire world. ~Unknown

A virtue coming from God.

Mercy, pardon, favor, privilege, kindness, courtesy, approval, dignity, temporary exemption, honor, beauty, elegance, harmony, charm and divine love.

My 2019 One Word is Grace. I believe grace allows for our Wholistic heart, body, mind, and spirit to all be in full alignment bringing JOY to the world and all those in it.

What does Grace mean to you?

SELF-CARE

The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular, during periods of stress.

I would like to share a blog that I think is well written. I credit Tracie Nichols with these wise words:

Recently I saw a social media post about self-care steps someone was taking after coming through an intense few weeks inviting folks to talk about the way they were taking care of themselves.

Not surprisingly, an impressive list of messages, nature rambles, spiritual experiences and the like followed.

What was surprising to me was the mixed set of reactions I felt when reading them.

There was my usual surge of “go you!” appreciation for people truly caring for themselves. I also felt exhausted and overwhelmed at the thought of trying to attempt any of these truly beautiful self-care practices myself. And then came an ache of aloneness and an alarming pulse of shame. (Shame?)

You see, my life right now is a storm of worry and off the charts stress. There are hard, hard things happening for 2 people I love. 2 people who are inextricably woven into the fabric of my daily life. People for whom I have a foot and a heart in the role of caretaker.

I’ll pause here to let you (deeply kind, so very compassionate and caring folks) no I’m OK. I know you’re all wise in the ways of healing and self-love and I’m not asking you to do the labor of offering advice (with a gentle appreciation for any who had that impulse). I simply offer this snapshot of my life to give you a bit of context So what I’m saying next about self-care makes sense.

Since a lot of my work centers around helping people Cultivate resilience, my aversion reactions to this post gave me this ghostly sense of being an outsider in a space I typically call home.

That pulse of shame? She’s there because “I know this stuff and I should be doing better.” which is hogwash, of course. But As I am sure you know when our resilience is stretched rice paper thin, that’s when our inner monsters stage their coup.

Hello, monsters…  Nope. You don’t get to take over ‘t get to take over…

So right now…

~because it’s all very intense and utterly beyond my control
~because it’s swampy with all the feelings, especially grief
~because my time isn’t my own – or doesn’t feel as if it is
~because the weight of this is bringing me to my knees – sometimes literally
~because massages and painting classes and long walks and silent retreats feel mythical. Unreachable. A climb up Everest in flip flops. 

…my version of self-care looks like

  • Remembering to eat.
  • Breathing a quiet “yes!” when it’s veggies rather than donuts.
  • Wearing the softest, most comfy clothes I own.
  • Embracing unplanned naps.
  • Stopping by a park for 10 minutes between transportation runs, rolling down the windows and breathing. Getting out of the car optional. Walking optional.
  • Wrapping my hands around a warm Cup of tea. Breathing.
  • Letting plans – for my business and life – go dormant for a bit.
  • Holding schedules – for my business and life – gently and loosely.
  • Whispering “I love you. You’ve got this.“ when I catch a glimpse of myself in random reflective surfaces.
  • Kindness and patience when none of these work.
  • Kindness when the patience fails.
  • Retroactive kindness when the kindness fails.

So, here’s my invitation to you this time: take a moment to notice the state of your resilience. And, if it feels nurture nourishing, whisper “I love you. You’ve got this.” when you catch a glimpse of yourself in random reflective surfaces. Saver how that feels. Build yourself a sweet well of self-love to draw on when life gets hard.

HUMOR

The quality of being amusing, comical or funny.

Humor is the gift we give ourselves but one that takes a little bit of work. We must look for the humor in every situation and use it to gain perspective, reduce stress and make others laugh and smile. When was the last time you had a good belly laugh?

About today’s author: Kat Middleton is an Empowerment Coach who is passionate about her work and advocates for authentic wholehearted living both personally and professionally. She is a Certified Professional Coach and Occupational Therapy Practitioner who loves working with people holistically; helping others to help themselves see things through new filters. Kat joined the Wholistic Woman community in September of 2017. She is very excited to learn, grow, and have much fun with this AMAZING group of women. Kat is available for private one-on-one coaching as well as group workshops, seminars, and speaking events.